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If you ever feel stuck in your mind, constantly at war within, fighting with your own mind daily. Here’s something to consider…

What if the emotions aren’t the problem, but it’s the resistance to certain feelings/ emotions that’s causing the root problem.

When we experience uncomfortable emotions, thoughts or feelings, the natural tendency is to try to fight it off, push it away. Distract ourselves. Get it out of our minds. But when does this ever work? The more we resist the harder it gets.

What we resist will persist and what we push down will come back up.

The paradox is, the more we try to fight away intrusive thoughts or emotions with brute force the more they show up.

So we’re just supposed to let them be there tormenting us?

well, here’s an example. Don’t think of a pink elephant. Really just make sure not to think of a blue watermelon. Ok and don’t think of a yellow coffee mug. See?

So the more we try to fight our mind against these thoughts, the more intrusive thoughts and uncomfortable emotions come up. To the point where it can become destructive and detrimental.

So the solution is to learn to surrender. It’s a conscious choice. Not some passive rolling over and giving up because “whats the point”. It’s the choice to stop fighting something you can’t control. The choice of freedom.

Feeling the uncomfortable emotion when it comes up, without grimacing or flinching, without mentally escaping or distracting, without pushing it away.

Just letting the feeling or intrusive thoughts be. Let it come up and crash down like a wave, just observe it. It’s there but it will fade. They only stay when we resist. We fight to push it down and get it away, which creates a cycle or loop on repeat.

We just need to be present. Be with the discomfort, it wont kill you. Let the stored up pain release, don’t fight it, feel it. Let it go, give it space. Don’t believe the negative thoughts don’t identify with them, but also don’t grab onto them and try to banish them. It’s just a thought, it doesn’t mean it’s true or real.

Sometimes thoughts or emotions are outside of our own control, that’s ok. Imagine the mind as the sky. Often storms or clouds pass through the sky. They are a part of life, they souldnt’t be resisted or make you angry, whats the point?

We can’t control every scenario or detail, so why bother? it only makes us more miserable if we try. We suffer when we place our own judgments of how things should be at every moment.

We suffer when we place our attention on the future and feel fear and worry or put our attention on the past and feel sad and shameful. We’re not present and we’re living from the past or anticipating the future, but not present in the moment.

So the solution… We stop resisting the fearful emotions. We stop fighting what we can’t change, we stop giving our power away. We let go. We surrender. This isn’t weakness, it’s strength. We realize we’re not fully in control here. There’s something greater than us at play. We accept our role and let go of false control.

So next time your mind is putting up a futile fight, will you take a moment to surrender, experience the emotion without resistance and let it go?