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When life gets hard…

When the pain runs deep. When you wake up and your nervous system is already in fight or flight mode. When it feels like it wont get easier. When hope runs low.

When you don’t see a way out. When you’re angry at yourself for mistakes. When you can’t forgive yourself. When guilt and shame show up. When you get weary.

How do we keep it together in times like those? Life is challenging, and at times it can be difficult to see what’s next up, when it feels like a whirlwind all around you.

This may seem counter intuitive, but I believe the first step is to let go. Let go of trying to control everything. Trying to have it all go the way you want or plan.

Resistance makes us rigid. The more we force things, they will push back. Instead we move from a place of calm, we don’t react to every little thing, we observe.

When we’re in pain, we need to have grace with ourselves. Life is hard for everyone, and when things stack up, we should be understanding to ourselves.

We don’t need to fight every situation, we accept what we cannot change, and change what we can. We work with where we’re at. We’re patient with ourselves.

It’s easy to beat ourselves up. It’s easy to bully ourselves for messing up, not being good enough, not disciplined enough, not ready enough. So we criticize ourselves.

But is that helpful? would you do that to a friend in that scenario? Of course not. So we should treat ourselves like a friend. After all we’re stuck with ourselves.

So let’s not forget that every season has a reason. There’s a purpose in the pain. There’s preparation in the waiting. There’s emotional resilience building.

The waiting teaches patience, the struggle teaches endurance. The pain teaches strength, the fear teaches courage. This is a process or refinement, of honing.

Pressure makes a diamond. And diamonds are strong from all that pressure. Maybe this painful season has a deeper purpose in your life. A lesson to teach.

So this moment is temporary, this too shall pass. But the lessons we learn from the hard seasons last a lifetime. We are being trained and prepared for new levels.

So whats one hidden benefit you can think of from a difficult season of your life?